Beberapa thn yg lepas, ada tertengok talkshow Oprah Winfrey.. the topic was - "The Truth about Cheating"..
dalam talkshow tu Oprah menjemput pengarang buku "the truth about cheating" - M Gary Neumen
dalam perbincangan tu semua audience yg dijemput ke studio adalah pasangan yg suami pernah cheating atau ada affair dgn org lain..
yg respectnya mereka nie boleh pulak muncul infront of public and make a confession... hmm... mybe budaya american terlampau open minded on this kind of stuff.. not like malaysians... perkara nie sgt memalukan keluarga..
(of coz la mana nk taruk muka kalo org tau hal umah tangga kita? so senyap sudah la jgn dibuka pekung di dada... xbaik kita memburukkan pasangan walaupun ada mslh.. nt jd fitnah pulak..)
ok berbalik ke rancangan Oprah td, Gary nie bgtau:
What's the number one reason men cheat? Ninety-two percent of men said it wasn't primarily about the sex. "The majority said it was an emotional disconnection, specifically a sense of feeling underappreciated. A lack of thoughtful gestures,"Gary says. "Men are very emotional beings. They just don't look like that. Or they don't seem like that. Or they don't tell you that."
hmmm... so apa yg disampaikan oleh si Gary nie.. lelaki cheating becoz.. rasa kurang dihargai? hmmmm... nie kita kena tgk blk..
mungkin betul apa yg dikatakan.. bila wanita n lelaki sudah berkahwin akan bertambah tggugjwb..bayar bil rumah, hutang... bila ada anak.. mybe lebih tumpuan kpd anak.. smp terlupa feeling n tumpuan pd pasangan..
Gary says it's easy for couples to drift away from appreciating one another like they should. Gary says the other woman often makes the man feel better about himself. "[She] makes them feel different. Makes them feel appreciated, admired," he says. "Men look strong, look powerful and capable. But on the inside, they're insecure like everybody else. They're searching and looking for somebody to build them up to make them feel valued."
hmmm.. so kita xbole buat pasangan kita rasa insecure atau underappreciate.. sb mungkin perempuan lain boleh buat pasangan kita rasa mereka dihargai.. dlm erti kata lain cari perasaan lain dpd perempuan lain.. disebabkan perasaan itu sudah tidak diterima drpd isteri.. (hoho yg nie kena igt!!) really good info..
Men have a winning mentality, Gary says. Just think about how the men in your life act while watching their favorite sports teams. "They love to win," Gary says. "Does he have ownership in the team? It looks like that. But as long as they're in the game, even to the very end, they'll watch. Once it's a blowout and they know their team can't win, television goes off. And what a lot of men will say to me through this research is, 'I just felt like I couldn't win.' Now they might not have been great guys to live with, I'm not saying it's her fault, again. But if you want to secure your relationship and understand and have the knowledge of men, make them feel like they're winning with the things that they do for you."
hahaha yg nie kita bole kategorikan jaga lah ego suami2... ego untuk menangkan suami... hmmm.. sy stuju juga apa yg dikatakan oleh Gary nie... lelaki ada ego of winning...kdg2 kita as woman kena rendahkan ego kita... walaupun susah but try.. demi kesejahteraan.. erti kata lain.. mengalah... kdg2 dorg salah, kita jgn salahkan dia atau sindir dia.. kena bijak susun ayat...
Don't be afraid to praise your partner or tell him that you appreciate what he does, Gary says. "We get married because we want one person in the world to really think we're wonderful for doing all the things that we do. We all want the same thing," he says. "And the more we give it, the more we get it in return."
so puji2 la selalu suami anda.. tak salah kita puji suami.. pujilah suami anda kacak, handsome... walaupun dia da boroi... hahaha...pujilah dia seorg suami yg baik dan rajin membantu di rumah...walaupun kdg2 dia jarang membantu... hehe mana tau dia bole bawak kita pegi huneymun jalan2...atau bw shopping (hehe mcm xikhlas puji tu)
so gary nie bgtau juga.. rata2 wanita yg terlibat dgn affair suami2 org nie xcantik pun.. atau bukan ada body yg sexy yg cun melecun tp sb wanita2 nie pandai amik hati...pandai nk amik tahu hal org laki nie.. it is not about sex.. semua nie berkaitan dgn ayat2 power wanita2 nie.. kata2 manis.. sweet talker.. layan baekk punya...
so bila suami2 nie cheating berapa peratus je yg bgtau hal sebenar? only 7% je yg berani.. selainnya hanya berbohong atau xbgtau langsung...dan bila wife tahu dan suami bebohong.. wife selalunya susah nk menghadapi kenyataan n selalu menganggap baik.. sb bila tahu mesti pedih dan mungkin akan menjurus kpd penceraian.. eeeii mintak dijauhkan..
ada jugak yg ada affair becoz of have the same interst atau hobby... hmmm susah jugak tu..
sebenarnya byk lg yg dikupas dr talkshow tu.. apa tanda2 suami cheating? apa mklumat yg isteri perlu tanya pd suami dan mcm2 lg... rasanya xcukup muka surat kalo nk bgtau.. hehehe...
apa2 pun kita sbg suami dan isteri mesti ada give n take then mesti cuba untuk memahami keperluan pasangan masing....
so renungkan bersama.. cuba elakkan sblm terjadi.. pencegahan lebih baik daripada mengubati..
dalam talkshow tu Oprah menjemput pengarang buku "the truth about cheating" - M Gary Neumen
dalam perbincangan tu semua audience yg dijemput ke studio adalah pasangan yg suami pernah cheating atau ada affair dgn org lain..
yg respectnya mereka nie boleh pulak muncul infront of public and make a confession... hmm... mybe budaya american terlampau open minded on this kind of stuff.. not like malaysians... perkara nie sgt memalukan keluarga..
(of coz la mana nk taruk muka kalo org tau hal umah tangga kita? so senyap sudah la jgn dibuka pekung di dada... xbaik kita memburukkan pasangan walaupun ada mslh.. nt jd fitnah pulak..)
ok berbalik ke rancangan Oprah td, Gary nie bgtau:
What's the number one reason men cheat? Ninety-two percent of men said it wasn't primarily about the sex. "The majority said it was an emotional disconnection, specifically a sense of feeling underappreciated. A lack of thoughtful gestures,"Gary says. "Men are very emotional beings. They just don't look like that. Or they don't seem like that. Or they don't tell you that."
hmmm... so apa yg disampaikan oleh si Gary nie.. lelaki cheating becoz.. rasa kurang dihargai? hmmmm... nie kita kena tgk blk..
mungkin betul apa yg dikatakan.. bila wanita n lelaki sudah berkahwin akan bertambah tggugjwb..bayar bil rumah, hutang... bila ada anak.. mybe lebih tumpuan kpd anak.. smp terlupa feeling n tumpuan pd pasangan..
Gary says it's easy for couples to drift away from appreciating one another like they should. Gary says the other woman often makes the man feel better about himself. "[She] makes them feel different. Makes them feel appreciated, admired," he says. "Men look strong, look powerful and capable. But on the inside, they're insecure like everybody else. They're searching and looking for somebody to build them up to make them feel valued."
hmmm.. so kita xbole buat pasangan kita rasa insecure atau underappreciate.. sb mungkin perempuan lain boleh buat pasangan kita rasa mereka dihargai.. dlm erti kata lain cari perasaan lain dpd perempuan lain.. disebabkan perasaan itu sudah tidak diterima drpd isteri.. (hoho yg nie kena igt!!) really good info..
Men have a winning mentality, Gary says. Just think about how the men in your life act while watching their favorite sports teams. "They love to win," Gary says. "Does he have ownership in the team? It looks like that. But as long as they're in the game, even to the very end, they'll watch. Once it's a blowout and they know their team can't win, television goes off. And what a lot of men will say to me through this research is, 'I just felt like I couldn't win.' Now they might not have been great guys to live with, I'm not saying it's her fault, again. But if you want to secure your relationship and understand and have the knowledge of men, make them feel like they're winning with the things that they do for you."
hahaha yg nie kita bole kategorikan jaga lah ego suami2... ego untuk menangkan suami... hmmm.. sy stuju juga apa yg dikatakan oleh Gary nie... lelaki ada ego of winning...kdg2 kita as woman kena rendahkan ego kita... walaupun susah but try.. demi kesejahteraan.. erti kata lain.. mengalah... kdg2 dorg salah, kita jgn salahkan dia atau sindir dia.. kena bijak susun ayat...
Don't be afraid to praise your partner or tell him that you appreciate what he does, Gary says. "We get married because we want one person in the world to really think we're wonderful for doing all the things that we do. We all want the same thing," he says. "And the more we give it, the more we get it in return."
so puji2 la selalu suami anda.. tak salah kita puji suami.. pujilah suami anda kacak, handsome... walaupun dia da boroi... hahaha...pujilah dia seorg suami yg baik dan rajin membantu di rumah...walaupun kdg2 dia jarang membantu... hehe mana tau dia bole bawak kita pegi huneymun jalan2...atau bw shopping (hehe mcm xikhlas puji tu)
so gary nie bgtau juga.. rata2 wanita yg terlibat dgn affair suami2 org nie xcantik pun.. atau bukan ada body yg sexy yg cun melecun tp sb wanita2 nie pandai amik hati...pandai nk amik tahu hal org laki nie.. it is not about sex.. semua nie berkaitan dgn ayat2 power wanita2 nie.. kata2 manis.. sweet talker.. layan baekk punya...
so bila suami2 nie cheating berapa peratus je yg bgtau hal sebenar? only 7% je yg berani.. selainnya hanya berbohong atau xbgtau langsung...dan bila wife tahu dan suami bebohong.. wife selalunya susah nk menghadapi kenyataan n selalu menganggap baik.. sb bila tahu mesti pedih dan mungkin akan menjurus kpd penceraian.. eeeii mintak dijauhkan..
ada jugak yg ada affair becoz of have the same interst atau hobby... hmmm susah jugak tu..
sebenarnya byk lg yg dikupas dr talkshow tu.. apa tanda2 suami cheating? apa mklumat yg isteri perlu tanya pd suami dan mcm2 lg... rasanya xcukup muka surat kalo nk bgtau.. hehehe...
apa2 pun kita sbg suami dan isteri mesti ada give n take then mesti cuba untuk memahami keperluan pasangan masing....
so renungkan bersama.. cuba elakkan sblm terjadi.. pencegahan lebih baik daripada mengubati..
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